Ep #1,117 - The Power of Using Emotion to Create Change - Own Your Power Success Tip

[00:00:00] So many of us realize that we need to change. Maybe we're stuck, or worse, we're comfortable. But we know in our hearts that if we make some changes, we can significantly improve our situation. Now this week's Own Your Power clip, we're talking about how you can use emotions to make those important changes or shifts that you know you need to make to create the life that you want. Now if the change you want to make in your life is financial and you know real estate's the vehicle you're going to use, then don't miss my two-day virtual bootcamp.

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[00:01:14] All right, let's get to it. As I said, today we're going to talk about utilizing emotions to make important and candidly necessary changes in our lives. You know, everyone throughout their days in their lives experiences a range of emotions, but very few people really step outside them to analyze or even channel those emotions to make changes, important changes in their lives.

[00:01:35] Now I want to share several emotions that you can actually use to help push yourself to make important, positive and candidly significant changes in your life. Now there's several emotions that when used consciously can change everything. I've used them not even realizing sometimes that's what I was doing and I'll share a couple of my stories. See, the first one we're going to talk about is disgust. Now you wouldn't normally think you would equate disgust with your ability to create something positive, but if you manage or channel it, it can be incredibly powerful.

[00:02:04] Typically, when someone feels disgusted, they're at the end of their rope, which is really a great opportunity to say to yourself, I've had enough and I'm freaking done. And I remember one of my own experiences or I, you know, I call them seminars when I went through my first real estate crash in the eighties. You know, I don't really talk about this experience very much because it was so overshadowed by my huge seminar in 2008 where I lost $50 million. But it's a great example of disgust that I think you can learn from.

[00:02:31] And I was really young. I was in my twenties and I was inexperienced in business, but I'd done really well flipping and holding houses. And I had the toys, which I thought were important at the time. I had a Rolls Royce, Maserati, Pantera in my garage. And I lived in the equivalent of what is about a million dollar house today. Then when the market crashed, because of my inexperience in business in general, I ended up losing that house to foreclosure. And I actually had to sell the Rolls Royce for cents on the dollar so I could make my payroll for my employees.

[00:02:59] And ultimately, I had to lay off my entire staff. It was really an ugly time. And I got to the point where I literally had to paint houses to have enough money to eat. You know, and I use this example is it got so bad one day. My mom came to my house and brought me a bag of groceries because she was worried about me. So I went from having a Rolls Royce to having mom bring me groceries. OK, and I was painting a house that day or the next day, and I literally had a freaking meltdown.

[00:03:28] I threw down the paintbrush and I started crying and just said, screw this. And I got totally disgusted with myself and my pathetic pity party. And I told myself, I'm never going to feel sorry for myself again like that. I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and I quickly went out and built myself back up financially. You know, I bought 500 houses in Denver in that run. So I'd use disgust to motivate myself for change, right? Now, whenever someone says enough is enough, you know, not another day, not another hour, not another minute like I did.

[00:03:58] It's going to become a life changing event. Now, another critical emotion for change is desire. You know, Napoleon Hill in his book, Think and Grow Rich, calls it a burning desire. When you've got a burning desire for change or a burning desire for anything you want in your life, and it exceeds your desire to stay the same, you're going to take action to make that change happen. You have to say to yourself, I want it now. And also know exactly what it is you want and why it's an absolute must that you'll make it happen. You know, another very powerful emotion for change is anger.

[00:04:26] Anger can cause you to push through fear and take risks to achieve what it is you want. Now, what's important to do with anger is to ultimately shift away from the anger and from anything external and focus on what it is you want, utilizing that anger just to take action and move and then ultimately candidly shift that anger to passion. Now, you can't make forward progress if you're angry. So you need to convert that anger to a positive emotion of passion. Now, I'll give you an example of this in my life.

[00:04:52] When I was a sophomore in high school, I had this massive crush on a girl named Sherry from another high school. I literally called her every single day for months. And then I found out that her mom called me Old Faithful. Yeah, Old Faithful. So I got angry. And that summer, I decided to change my life. I got a gym membership. I remember it was at a Nautilus gym. And I worked out really hard. I built my body up. And then I got a job at a men's clothing store. So I got nice clothes.

[00:05:19] I got my hair cut at a real salon instead of the barber college I used to go to. And then one day, I showed up at her house, at Sherry's house. And when she answered the door, she didn't even recognize me. And then she started calling me. So I'll tell you, the last emotion I'm going to talk about today is resolve. There's a big difference between wishing for something better or a change versus coming at that change from a place of resolve. Resolve is when you say, I must, not I might, right?

[00:05:47] Resolve is driven by your will and determination. When you're resolved, there's nothing that can stand in your way. When you're resolved, you don't give up. So you got to change your shoulds to musts with resolve. And then you'll take action and make positive change. Find your passion. Don't be afraid to change, my friend. The quality of your life is directly related to how much you can get outside your comfort zone. So embrace change. Utilize these emotions to effectuate that change to help you create the life of your dreams.

[00:06:17] I'm Rod Khleif wishing you incredible passion and massive success in your business and in your life.